Hey grasshopper.Thx dustin! I just realized I need to do this as well.
I used a multi-meter to find a fuse that was powered only when the ignition was on, but since there wasn't an empty fuse position with that characteristic, I used an adapter https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B013JXVG2U/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1 to add a second fused circuit to one that was already there. It allows you to put the original fuse in the adapter, and add a second one for powering the relay https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00C0SATHE/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
In the attached pic you can see the red wire coming out of the adapter in the fuse block to the right and going to power the relay. In the lower left corner you can see where I pulled the hitch power from the lug at the front of the fuse block with a red fused #8 wire that wraps around the back of the fuse block and attaches to the yellow input wire of the replay, and exits the relay as the heavy blue wire that is routed back to the hitch. That's now a 6 yr old installation, so things are a little dusty compared to when installed. The wires are all usually pretty much invisible when tucked in behind the fuse block with it's cover on, with the relay tucked along the back side, but I pulled them all up to take the pic.View attachment upload_2022-9-9_9-37-46.png